Have you ever been hurt by someone? We all have. If you are around people, you are guaranteed pain. So why does it seem so much worse when hurt is inflicted by Christians?
I think we are shocked because we expect our brothers and sisters in faith to act differently. The truth is our shared belief does not change the fact that – Christian or not – humans are flawed.
Here’s the thing, having a relationship with Jesus changes us (hopefully) for the better. But, because perfection is never fully reached in this world Christian or not, we remain imperfect and capable of inflicting pain on each other.
So what is the solution? Jesus. It’s that simple. When our thoughts are fixed on him, it changes our perspective. Filtering hurt through Jesus changes the way we interpret it.
Hebrews 3:1 says, “Fix your thoughts on Jesus. Hebrews 12:2 says to fix our eyes. On him. What we focus on is what drives us – it becomes us. Focus on hurts, and we become bitter, angry, and frustrated. But, focus on Jesus and we find peace and comfort.
This is God’s promise to us. Philippians 4:7 says the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard our hearts and minds of we choose to stay grounded in Jesus.
So, when I am hurt, I have a choice to focus on the offense, or on the one who brings peace. It’s challenging, not always easy, and rarely instant. Sometimes I need to refocus over and over.
There’s no distinction in this process whether the offence comes from strangers, friends, family, or Christian brothers or sister’s. The only hope we have comes from choosing to look past the hurt to the ONLY one who can change the ash of pain into something beautiful. Isiah 61:3